Seeking joy and peace in your life represents an urgency for harmony and congruency in your soul. Just being valiant enough to ask why you feel as you do is an indication of open to receiving solutions!  Fortunately, these answers may not be as hard to uncover as you think. Anger is a broad or even a substitute emotion that we feel unsafe to express. It is typically the “tip of the ice burg”,  hiding feelings of fear, rejection, disrespect or being ignored (to name a few).  Anger commonly mask these areas of pain and frustration which, although stifled or ignored, invariable leads to anger  resentment or depression.

Relationship issues are the biggest source of human pain and pleasure. Wanting to control others is wholesome nor possible. The goal is to seek ways to be in alignment with others, and to do so without feeling you must disavow your own needs and interests. Developing the skill to really listen until that person feels truly heard is the best way to start and maintain positive relationships in all areas of our lives.

The desire to grow is built into the human psyche, sure it can be suppressed or ignored but it is nevertheless there. And yet it is human nature to also fear the unknown.   Fortunately with some vital reassessments of things and a new perspective you absolutely can grow beyond your wildest dreams!  There are indeed miracles in you!

Striking a happy medium between fulfilling obligations and responsibilities without turning your life into pure drudgery can seem impossible. It requires the willingness to look at which things are mandatory and which are not. With an on-going commitment to set firm but flexible goals in love, peace is enhanced and the opportunity for anger and resentment to flourish is reduced.

Closely looking at how you can have a broader, more fulfilling life is essential. Making changes requires assessing resistance, which can be subtle or obvious. In almost every case resistance is the true cause of stagnation. Being open to uncovering deeply ingrained habits and removing resistance is a process. But with a little bit of patience and work the result in an increased feeling of  joy and empowerment!  

One of the reasons why frustration with daily task and routines can be stressful is because of larger cultural factors.  Specifically, the western world, or many “modern societies” are set up  on  an individualist and small family basis..  The challenge is human beings are “social creatures” .  This means we tend to function with less stress when there is wholesome interactive support.

 But because most people in these societies do not know any other way to live, we simply adapt to “what is”. However, our human nature — a predisposition toward a mutually caring and supportive cooperation environment, goes unnoticed and unaddressed. This mode of living, while it has its good points (more privacy and self-focus)  usually equates to more mental and financial strain– the “work of many” becomes by default, the “work of the few”.    

While this doesn’t mean more ancient or ” less developed life”  cultures , where cooperation is standard, is to be idealized,  but it does explain why isolation, loneliness and feeling overwhelmed is so common in today’s fast- paced world. The “go it alone world”, with technology as our key  champion, is psychologically stressful and less fulfilling.